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F(m)F Fridays: Crafted and Cured

If you live in the Dayton area and you haven’t been to Crafted and Cured yet, it’s way, way, way past time.

Full disclosure, I hadn’t been before last week. It had been on my list of “things to do”, but I just hadn’t gotten over there.

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Crafted and Cured is a craft beer and meat/cheese place in the Oregon District of downtown Dayton. It’s in the extended blocks of the district, on Wayne avenue in the Dietz building. There are several more stores going into that building, so it’s definitely a place to keep your eye on for the future.

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For now, though, Crafted and Cured is no slouch! The decor is funky in an antique-y way. The people are very friendly and very, very knowledgeable. The “Crafted” bar has 60 taps. Yes, 60. Many of them, although not all, are local, and they have a healthy variety of things, including two taps for non alcoholic drinks. There’s wine as well, although not as much. The “Cured” counter has a menu that includes a variety of different cheeses and meats. You can choose any combination of the meats and cheeses, and the chefs will put together a custom cheese board for you. And they are really works of art. I mean, look at this thing:IMG_1649IMG_1670

It is a little pricey for the evening, although I think well worth it. My one real complaint is that there aren’t any “pre built” cheese board options, and the menu is a little overwhelming. The things we chose for our board were all really superbly delicious, but I had no idea if they would go together well at all- still don’t, in fact. It would be nice to be able to choose from a few options that had been curated for the customer a little bit. img_1673.jpg

But really, that’s my only improvement. It’s a dynamite little spot- I can’t wait to go back!

 

Superhero Action of the Day: have you been anywhere new lately? I’d love to hear about it! Let me know in the comments!

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DIY: Stick Curtain Rods

Tonight I have a decorating tutorial for you. About a month ago, I made new curtain rods for my living room, and tonight, I want to talk you through the how-to!

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Ready? Let’s go.

First of all, I found this stick well over a year ago while I was walking in the neighborhood one night. It turned out to be almost exactly 8 1/2 feet long, which was perfect. I got the idea from a house I used to house sit for, and I’ve loved it ever since. When I found that stick, it seemed like a match made in heaven. I traipsed home with the stick, squirreled it away, and started thinking about curtains for my living room.

Here was my problem: I couldn’t decide what I wanted for curtains. I’d talked about purple, mostly for the pop of color, but I couldn’t even find any fabric I was really in love with. And curtains, yikes, they’re SO expensive. Yeesh. So I worked on that, off and on, for about a year.

And then, one day in April, I went to Target. And I don’t know about you, but I ALWAYS look at the endcaps in my Target stores. That’s where the clearance stuff turns up, and well, you just NEVER KNOW. Sure enough, on this fortuitous day, there were four soft gold curtain panels. And because they were a return, Target wanted $8.37 each for them. I swear I’ve never put anything in my cart so quick in my life. I mean. EIGHT DOLLARS. You can’t buy the fabric for that much. So, I brought them home, and about a month ago, I finally made the curtain rods to hang them on.

They add a lot of warmth and softness to my room, and they look really nice. And the curtain rod makes the kind of formal curtains a little more easy going and funky, which is right up my eclectic decor alley.

I started by collecting some more supplies. After a little bit of pinterest based research, I went off to the hardware store and picked up some medium grit sandpaper, some clear coat spray, some large cup hooks and some clip on curtain rings. IMG_1512

Then, I came home and got to work. First, I measured my stick and my windows. Then, using a sharpie, I carefully marked on the stick where I needed to cut the stick- it was actually right in half for me, but it will depend on the length of your stick. Then, I used a small hand saw I borrowed from my mother, and I cut the stick in half. It wasn’t hard- my stick was only about an inch thick, so no big deal. I did most of this outside, obviously, because of fumes and/or mess. IMG_1513

Once I had two sticks, I grabbed my sandpaper. I got lucky in that this piece of wood was already really dry and almost all of the bark was off it, so I didn’t have too much trouble with this step. However, you want to remove the bark and make sure the piece is really, really dried out before you do this. That gives anyone catching a ride time to get out before you put a piece of nature in your house. IMG_1514

So, I sanded it down, nice and smooth, especially on the ends. I double checked the width of the stick against my cup hooks, and put a notch in the thickest end and sanded that out really well. When I was content with the smoothness of the sticks, I sprayed all sides of the sticks with my clear coat. I followed the directions on the can for this, and it was pretty easy. I ended up doing about three coats, and waited a little while in between coats- maybe about a half hour in between each coat.

I got the curtains out of the package and ironed them. Not my favorite, but definitely necessary in this case! Then I did some measuring and marking on my walls. I chose to hang my curtains considerably higher than my window trim. I did this for a couple of reasons. For one thing, it makes the windows look bigger in your room. For another thing, when I measured I realized my clearance curtains were too long for my room. Oops! I’ve got a plan for that, but I haven’t done it yet. In the end, I hung the  curtain rods as high as I could without moving the furniture to stand on it. See my special short people standing device? IMG_1515

It took some elbow grease to get the hooks into the walls, but I figure that means they aren’t likely to come out easily, right? Don’t forget that your hooks need to be closer together than the lengths of your sticks so you can support the stick properly!

Then I just clipped the curtains onto the rings and wiggled them onto the sticks. Easy peasy. I put the stick through the cup hooks, and voila! I was all done. Because I didn’t want to lose the light in my living room, I cut two vintage belts from South America that someone had given me in half, and, using 4 more smaller cup hooks I had left from another project, I made some easy (and very eclectic) tie backs.

I was pretty pleased with the result- and the best part was, all totaled up, it only cost me about $50. Not bad, when some of the curtain panels I was looking at would have cost me about that per window before hardware!

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Superhero action of the day: Is it time to freshen up the decor in your living space? Maybe take a look at what you have. Can you use it in a different way somehow?

 

 

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Adventure is out there

Sometimes, you have to be a little spontaneous.

I am not, by nature, a spontaneous person. I like routine, and lists, and schedules. I like plans. I like to know what’s happening and when. To be brief, I like control.

Most of the time, that works for me. All of those things make me better at my job. All of these things make me a better freelancer. It can be a little rigid, it isn’t for everyone. But it works for me. Most of the time.

Sometimes, however… you just have to get out there. Sometimes, you have to throw plans to the wind and just… go with it.

Sometimes, you have to throw all your plans to the wind, and have an adventure. Unless you’re some kind of millionaire, odds are you can’t afford to go on a multi-continental adventure without some planning. I know I can’t! All my crazy vacations and trips are planned out within an inch of their lives. Obsessively. I run the numbers over and over again, and plan it out to the last detail.

But Charis, I can hear you saying, you just said to be spontaneous! I know I know I know. Let me explain.

I’m a firm believer in “making your own fun”. My Grandpa used to say that, and of all his many sayings, that’s one of my favorites. You’ve got to find your own adventures. Sometimes, that means something small- a new recipe, or taking the evening walk at the park instead of around the neighborhood. Sometimes it’s something more- surprise a friend, cancel your plans and go on a day trip. Sometimes it’s something that feels trivial- go ride a long with a friend while they run errands.

It’s about being open to new experiences. It’s about not living in such a way that you never try anything new. It’s about making relationships with people that help you look at the world with a new perspective. It’s about not being afraid to saying ‘yes’ to doing something that wasn’t in your plan, whatever the plan was. It’s about learning to surrender that control, just a little bit. Sometimes. Give yourself the freedom to deviate from the plan.

But finding your own adventure goes beyond the physical kind. Adventure is a state of mind. Anything is an adventure if you decide you’re going to enjoy it.

Maybe, instead of dreading something, we start to look at it with new eyes. Hate looking for items in the store? We’re on a quest! Hate sweeping your floors? The dirt is the villain of the day! Sure, you might feel a little silly, but we’ve already talked about that and decided it’s totally fine.

Put yourself in adventure mode. Switch things up. Let yourself be surprised a little bit.

Superhero action of the day: Do something out of your routine today! ESPECIALLY if you’re starting to feel hemmed in by things. Get out there and do something adventurous.

 

The Power of Rest

Happy Monday, superheroes!

I hope your Monday was amazing. I hope you were productive, and helpful, and strong.

I was not.

I’m struggling with the amount of freedom I’ve got this summer. I’m not used to having so much free time, and quite honestly, I’m not reacting to it as well as I had hoped. I have a ton of projects I thought I was going to work on, but so far, not a lot of progress. I’ve gone on some adventures, had a lot of fun… but I’m not getting enough done.

But you know what I AM doing? Taking a lot of naps. Spending time with my dog. Taking long walks. Working on THIS project. Spending time with friends and family. Reading books.

I’m not doing very well with my to do lists. But I have to keep reminding myself that for most of the last ten months, I worked 60-80 hours a week at three or four separate jobs. And that that kind of long term abuse (because that’s what it is, if we’re being totally honest) takes a toll. And now I have to pay up. I don’t have to like it. But I owe my body some time, and it is collecting.

So often, I think it is easy for us to forget the power of rest. We love to be busy so much it literally makes us sick. We hop from thing to thing, from job, to exercise, to social event. We don’t sleep enough. We don’t give our brains down time. We just grind and grind and hustle and hustle.

And sometimes you have to stop and smell the roses. Sometimes, you have to go back to bed with your dog. Sometimes your greatest accomplishment for the day can be cleaning out your email inbox and sending two important email replies.

This can’t be everyday. I’m bored already, and it has only been a month. Soon, my motivation will come back and I’ll get more done again. I’ll start getting serious about the upcoming work season, and all of my projects will start to sound interesting again. Hopefully I don’t drop anything out of my net while I’m resting, but rest is important.

When we go through something physically exhausting, we wake up the next day, or maybe two days later, and we can feel it. When we workout a lot, we get sore muscles. If we’re in an accident, we get bruises. If we have surgery, there’s pain from that.

A lot of times, when we go through something emotionally exhausting, we take a day or two- or longer- to get back on our feet. When we lose someone. When a relationship falls apart. When we get handed a big disappointment. We take some time. We rest.

But we don’t tend to do that with mental exhaustion. When we’re mentally exhausted, we grab another cup of coffee and buckle in. We berate ourselves for our brain fog and insist that we “don’t know what’s wrong” with ourselves. We push harder, and harder. We sacrifice sleep. We sacrifice down time. We give of ourselves until there is nothing left. And then we collapse, or explode, or lash out. We hurt the people who love us best. We get irritable. We let our lives get pushed to the side.

And all because we refuse to rest.

 

Superhero action of the day: are you taking the time you need to rest? Are you tired? Time to start thinking about how to get what you need.

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A Walk

In 2013, I fell in love with a small, 12 week old black puppy. In the four years that Penelope and I have been living together, she has become my best friend, biggest confidante and almost constant companion. img_0555.jpg

Right before Christmas in 2014, Penelope and I moved into my current apartment. My apartment is small. I like it, don’t get me wrong, but it is pretty tiny- about 500 square feet. Not really enough room for 45 pounds of fur covered energy.

And so, Penelope and I walk. We walk two or three times a day, every day, no matter the weather. We walk when I’m exhausted, we walk when I can’t wait to get going with my day. We walk, quite literally, morning, afternoon and night.

Walking is a simple motion. Most of us learned it before we can remember. We do it without thinking. When we need something, we get up, and we walk. But the simplicity of the motion is what makes it so powerful.

Typically, when I workout, I want a workout so difficult that I can’t focus on anything else. I want it mind numbing. I want it to hurt, to stretch me, literally and metaphorically. I want to push my body past it’s limit. After a workout like that, I feel powerful, invigorated, full of promise and possibility.

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But when it’s really my brain that needs the workout, I go for a walk. When I need to think hard about something, I go for a walk. Heck, even when I need to memorize something… I often find myself going for a walk.

When Penelope and I started walking together so consistently, I started to notice some changes in both of us. First of all, her behavior completely changed. She doesn’t tear things up. She doesn’t get into my trash, and she doesn’t get onto my counters. Also, she became better and better with a leash. I guess I always thought dogs just knew how to walk on a leash. But I guess that’s not true- we definitely learned together. She sleeps more and better, she’s more calm in general- she’s just overall a more happy and healthy dog. That alone is enough of a reason for me, but I have seen some real benefits too.

I lost weight. A lot of weight. In the first 6 months we lived in this apartment, without really trying too terribly hard, I lost 30 pounds. And the vast majority of my exercise was walking. I became more confident. I’m cautious about walking at night, although I’ve never had a real problem when I’m out with Penelope. However, I am not afraid to go for a walk at night, and I like that part of myself.

IMG_1080Also, she forces me to get out of bed in the mornings. Sure, sometimes on Saturdays we go back to bed, but like it or not, I am usually up by about 7:30. I’m not a natural morning person, but I know that I’m most productive in the morning, so it’s nice to start my day with at least a little bit of activity. These days, our morning walk is usually about an hour- roughly 2.5 miles- and it is such a nice start to the day.

I also often use our walk as a time to catch up on phone calls or on books I’m listening to- or podcasts, although I’m mostly on books right now. I love to multi task and this is such an easy way to do it.

I am a lover of routine, and I like that about our walks too. In a life that sometimes feels frenetic and zooey, every day, I must carve out at least a few minutes to strap on Penelope’s leash and get outside. I don’t always love it. I don’t always want to do it. But she needs me. It’s our routine. And I always feel better afterwards, no matter what else is going on. IMG_1281

But I think best of all, walking every day with Penelope helps me to find perspective. The morning walk is a time to think through my day. What projects do I need to work on? Who do I need to be in touch with? What are my top three to dos? The afternoon walk breaks up the day: the major part of the work day is over. What do I still need to do for the evening? Did I get everything done I needed to finish up? The evening walk is the hardest- and the easiest one by far to skip, but I find myself in a better place to go to bed if I go ahead and take it. What does tomorrow look like? How am I feeling about today? And sometimes most importantly, can I make my step goal yet tonight?

 

Pictures in this post are various things I’ve seen while out walking! Enjoy!

 

Superhero Action of the Day: Carve out 20 minutes, and go for a walk. Try to make it a habit!

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Fun and Mostly Free Fridays: Rainy Days

Happy Friday!

You made it! Another week is over. Today, we’re looking at some ways to kick back and relax… even if it is pouring rain and ruining all your outdoor Summer plans!

  1. Movie marathon: pick a theme, or a series, grab your favorite snacks and settle in. Bonus points for food delivery and comfy pants
  2. Read a book, just for fun. I’m working on some book reviews, but until then, maybe find a person you are interested in, or a movie you like based on a book, if you aren’t a big reader. Make sure to check the library!
  3. Look at museums in your area. A lot of towns and cities have a surprising numbers of art galleries and historical museums. Delve into some local history or art!
  4. Make a tour of restaurants and breweries. If you’ve got an active local scene, take advantage! You’ll never know what you come across that you love!
  5. Host a board game or puzzle party- everyone brings something edible to share, and settle in for some competitive fun.
  6. Home spa day: make a sugar scrub, give your feet some love, and soak in the tub- just make it an all around luxurious experience!
  7. Deep clean or organize your space: ok, so this isn’t the most fun thing to everyone, but it sure is satisfying! Choose one space and dive right in.
  8. Host a home craft and wine night: have friends bring a project they’re working on over and enjoy your favorite beverage while you finish up some crafting projects.
  9. Go window shopping. Give yourself a budget and go to a store that you don’t normally shop in. Pick out all the things you would buy if you had the money. I prefer to do this at home decor stores and pretend I’m decorating my dream house.
  10. Try a new recipe. If you have a recipe you’ve been eyeing that looked complicated, maybe it’s time to whip that puppy out and give it a spin. Or maybe it’s time to try a full scale, complicated meal? Rainy days are perfect for that.

Superhero action of the day: Did I miss a rainy day favorite of yours? Let me know by leaving a comment!

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5 ways to make life easier

Hi Superheroes!

We’re all busy. Work, school, family, friends, working out, saving the world- how are we supposed to keep up? It’s hard! So here’s a couple of tips to help you out when things feel like you’ll never, ever, EVER catch up.

 

  1. Put your bills on auto pay. As many of them as possible. Yes, it is absolutely TERRIFYING to do that if you aren’t ABSOLUTELY sure there will be enough money in your account- but it is one less thing to think about (and forget about). Some examples might be: savings/retirement, cable/internet, electricity, gas, water, trash pickup, gym memberships, or (of course) subscription services. I try to leave the really big bills (for me that’s rent and student loans) up to me as to when exactly I pay them so I can double check that they’re not causing me a problem.  Almost everything else goes on auto pay, which makes my semi monthly bill paying sessions very quick and easy!
  2. While we’re at it… SUBSCRIPTION SERVICES. I’ve already told you I’m obsessed with Dollar Shave Club. But the other super handy subscription service I use is Amazon’s Subscribe and Save. I chose 5 products that I wanted to receive either every month or every other month, and I put them on subscribe and save. I get them for a slightly cheaper price AND I never have to remember to pick them up at the store. For me, those five products were dog treats, KIND bars, Larabars, tampons and face cloths. Five isn’t the limit either- the more you subscribe, the more you save! For me, these five products were something I either forgot to buy regularly but needed, or else i had to make a special trip just to get them. Either way, now they get delivered to my door.
  3. Plan ahead. I know this seems like a no brainer. But the more you plan ahead, the easier you’ll breathe. Find a calendar that works for you, and then use it! Maybe it’s your phone, maybe it’s on paper. Either way, schedule absolutely EVERYTHING in. Sometimes I even schedule in my travel time from point A to point B- and sometimes I add important listening or phone calls to that time. Also, plan your meals. You’ll feel so much better physically, and man, does it make you feel like an adult.
  4. Keep your home clean. This is SO hard when you’re busy. Believe me, I know. But it is so, so helpful to take 5-10 minutes at the end of your day, no matter what, and do one chore. Put away laundry. Swiffer the floors. Wipe down the surfaces in your bathroom. Oh, and try to do your dishes before bed too. Or at least load the dishwasher.
  5. Have a triage list. Sometimes, things just get too crazy. Hopefully these periods don’t last too long, but occasionally, all of us will have to let somethings go in order to get through a very busy time in our lives. I find it helpful to know which of my priorities and projects can get dropped in what order. For example, for me, my list looks like this: TV, pleasure reading or making, time with friends and family (sorry!), cleaning, side projects, exercise, sleep, cooking, work (because work is usually the thing sucking my time away). So, TV is the first thing I cut out, and work becomes my “must do, must finish on time” item. Although I really start to feel uncomfortable when I have to start cutting in on my cleaning, side projects or exercise, I know that if I have to, I can cut down on that stuff and come back to it when life slows down again. I don’t like it, but I can deal with it.

 

Super hero action of the day: How do you save time when you’re busy? And what’s your triage list look like?

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7 ways to beat the heat

Happy first day of Summer, Northern Hemisphere! Was it hot today where you are? It was in the 90’s here today- not as hot as some places, I know, but plenty warm enough for me! Also, my superhero hideout does not have air conditioning, so by the end of the day, it is WARM up in here.

So today, let’s look at ways to stick it out in the heat!

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  1. Popsicles. I know this is probably pretty obvious, but man do I eat A LOT of popsicles during the summer. I usually buy these Outshine fruit bars. I regularly eat one before bed, and I at least FEEL cooler, even if my body temperature hasn’t gone down at all. 31oc1rk5z6l
  2. If you have one of these handy microwave rice bags, pop it in the freezer for about an hour to give yourself a nice chilly hug.
  3. TURN THE OVEN OFF. Again, maybe this is obvious, but if at all humanly possible, just don’t use the oven. Summer is a great time to use your crock pot to do your cooking, or to take a good look at salads and smoothies.
  4. Use cold water. Sometimes I drink a huge glass of it. Sometimes, even in the middle of the day, I take an ice cold shower for as long as I can stand it. Sometimes I just run my arms under cold water at the tap- or just my feet.
  5. Stay hydrated! When you’re hot, you’re sweating, and sweat uses a lot of liquid! Plus, sweat is the best way we have to cool our bodies. And water is good for you.
  6. Choose strategic times to exercise, and give yourself a proper cool down. My boxing gym is not air conditioned. When it’s 90 degrees outside, it’s about 100 in there. Sometimes that means I don’t go to a lot of boxing in the Summer. It’s just too hot. To avoid this, workout first thing in the morning, or after dark- or go someplace cool- just make sure to cool down properly when you’re done!
  7. If all else fails, get an ac unit. Last spring, I bought a portable room air conditioner unit (you can check them out here). It’s loud, it doubles my electric bill if I use it a lot, it’s a pain to store… but it gets the job done. Even better, I can choose when it’s hot enough to use it and when I can do without, because it doesn’t take up the entire window for the entire Summer. I can remove the vent when I want to, or push it into another room. Totally worth the inconvenience.

Superhero Action of the day: what’s your favorite way to stay cool when it’s hot outside? Drop me a comment- I’d love the new ideas!

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Balance

There are so many different kinds of balance, aren’t there?

There’s physical balance, of course. The kind that allows us to walk, stand on one foot, or, with practice and focus, pull off some crazy cool yoga poses.

There’s mental balance- the kind that comes with clear, logical, sound thinking.

There’s emotional balance. The kind that keeps us from getting too involved in situations that are beyond our control. From diving too deep off the rabbit hole of emotions, good or bad, honestly.

There’s spiritual balance. This one comes deep within ourselves, from knowing that we’re living lives that are good, that are on track with our life’s purpose.

They’re all important. Balance of all kinds is so important.

Tonight, I’m struggling with balance of the food and exercise kind.

I am finally to the place in my journey where I love my body. I do. I’m proud of it. It works so hard. It is so strong. It is capable of some truly amazing things.

But I also… I want to improve it. I still have areas that I look in the mirror and wish were different. I long for a slimmer stomach, and more toned arms. A perky behind. Some days, it is hard to, well, balance, those two things. They are such opposite ideals.

One of my major hobbies is exercise. I love the endorphin rush. I love the feeling of doing something I couldn’t have done two weeks ago. I love the sweat and, yes, even the pain of it. I workout hard. My favorite form of exercise right now is boxing. In the winter, I like hot yoga, in the summer, I lean more towards weight training. I like to hike, and I am looking for ways to get more involved in water sports- paddle boarding and kayaking, specifically.

But you know what my other major hobby is? Food. You guys, I love, love, love to eat food. And my tastes are very broad. Sometimes, like when I’m on a Whole30, I eat great. And I really do like it! I love finding new recipes, cooking and eating healthy food, the pride of eating clean. And then there are days where I make a special trip to the store just to buy ice cream and hot fudge sauce. Balance, right?

But how do we rectify that? The truth is, I don’t know. I’m still figuring it out. One day at a time, right? Sometimes, it feels like an endless cycle. Workout, eat good food, have an ice cream or pizza attack… workout again.

Does the ice cream contribute to my emotional and spiritual balance? Sometimes. Do I sometimes self medicate with it? Absolutely.

I’m not sure there is an answer. If there is, I don’t know it. What I know is that both working out and eating ice cream make me happy. And sometimes, that’s enough.

 

Superhero action of the day: how do you keep your life in balance? Where are the places you can improve that balance?

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10 qualities to cultivate in yourself

Hi Superheroes!

Sorry for my absence. This past week kind of knocked me on my butt, and I got to spend some serious time doing self care- and not doing much else.

But I’m back! And tonight, we’re looking at 10 qualities Superheroes should cultivate within themselves! So let’s get started, shall we?

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  1.  Courage. We’ve talked about courage already– I think it’s an obvious one for us. Living without fear is hard, but we can do it. Do things that scare you and prove to yourself how unstoppable you are!elpephant
  2. Compassion. The ability to care about other people is so important. Especially people who are hard to care for. helping-hands
  3. Forgiveness. People are going to hurt you. I wish I could say that that wasn’t going to be the case, but people are going to do it. It sucks. It hurts. It isn’t fair. But you’ll forgive them anyway. Not everybody, not every time. But you have to learn to forgive, or it will eat you alive. And then you can’t help anybody! Forgiveness is hard, but you can do it. This does, of course, include forgiving yourself. You’re going to screw up. You’re going to hurt others. Be gentle with yourself. 26_is_3469479_r0b_2x1
  4. . Learn to listen. Listening to people is a very important skill. Without listening properly, it will not be possible for any of us to move forward. Listen to what people are saying, and what they aren’t saying. Both of them are important abilities. conversation
  5. Communicate. By the same token, you have to learn how to tell people what you need and what you are feeling. This is so so hard for me. I’m a strong person. I’m very capable. It’s hard for me to tell people I need help, that I’m not being served. Conflict is terrifying. But dealing with it is worth it. I’ve had that shown to me, over and over again. Face your fears on the subject and talk to people who need you to talk to them. You’ll get better at it with time. aaeaaqaaaaaaaalpaaaajdy5otq2ywe0lwjjntktndg4zi04zdi4ltriogmzn2rkndrkoa
  6. Passion. Find something you are wildly passionate about. I don’t care what it is. It could be saving the whales, or it could be nail art. Find something you love without reservation. Find something you care about so much that you feel like you can just get out of your own way and do it. Get good at it. Get involved with it. Do the things that make you feel full and satisfied.determination_28458525236229
  7. Determination. If something is worth doing, it’s worth getting knocked over and trying again. Sometimes you’ll get knocked off course. Get up and get back to it. loyalty
  8. Loyalty. When you find your people, stick to them. I’m not saying stay in bad relationships of any kind. I’m saying that when you find the people who love and support you every time, you do the same for them. Don’t be the person who isn’t there to catch someone else. It’s a nasty feeling.bigstock-man-on-top-of-a-mountain-stand-51437401.jpg
  9. Honesty. Speak the truth to people. Speak it in love. Speak it with kindness. But speak it. Find the courage to tell people you love that you don’t agree with them. Find the strength to break off bad relationships. Stand tall and proud on your truth mountain and live your life. 
  10. Love. Love fiercely. Love deeply. Love as many people and things as you can. See the beauty in as many things and people as possible. And then try for more. Love always. The rest will come together.