10 things to help you rock September

Can you BELIEVE it’s September already? Seems like just yesterday it was February (sorry… bad inactivity joke)

In any case, it’s a great time of year for new beginnings! If you’re a student, you’re fresh back to school. If you’re out of school, you might be wrangling tiny humans and getting them into a classroom. But even if you aren’t at all connected with the school schedule during this chapter, it’s still a great time to assess where you are and what you need moving forward.

I’ve had a lot of time to come up with ten new products, but these are all things I’m using currently that I love.

Once again… no money involved here, just my honest opinions!

  1. Instant Pot– I bought this for myself on Amazon Prime Day, and although I’m still learning the mysteries of the Instant Pot, I am obsessed already. It’s so easy. The food is so good! It’s so quick! Expect to see more about it soon!!10 things to rock September
  2. Goal Digger podcast– I won’t lie, finding this podcast is a big part of my new found motivation! I listen to Jenna every morning, and if nothing else, she makes me believe these dreams of mine are possible. If you have any dreams of having a side hustle or owning your own business, you should be listening to this!10 things to help you rock September: www.superheroliving.blog
  3. Panera Souffles I KNOW these are not necessarily a healthy breakfast option, but oh my gosh are they delicious!! If you’re looking for something a little different for breakfast, you have to try one.                           10 things to help you rock September: www.superheroliving.blog
  4. OPI Iceland collection I picked up a bottle of “Icelanded a bottle of OPI” recently at TJ Maxx, and I’m loving the color. It’s super neutral, which isn’t my go to, but I’m feeling it right now! It’s kind of a purple-y greige, and it makes me feel very polished and put together. 10 things to help you rock September: www.superheroliving.blog
  5. Dia Box I started getting a Dia Style Box this Summer, and I must admit, it’s been fun. If you don’t know, Dia boxes are curated personally styled boxes of clothes that get delivered once a month. Dia caters exclusively to plus size women. I really enjoy getting my boxes every month, although I have to be honest- I send most of the clothes back. Often I like the pieces, but they’re just too expensive for me. Still, it’s fun to see the things they pick out, the quality is generally very good, and I like keeping track of what’s stylish. 10 things to help you rock September- www.superheroliving.blog
  6. Kroger Clicklist Wherever you buy your groceries, I imagine there’s some kind of a pick up option- or there will be soon. Y’all. This is a game changer. If you’re busy like I am, this will save you SO MUCH TIME. It’s totally worth the nominal ($5) charge. I can pick out exactly what I want in my Kroger app, then they gather it all up, bring it to me at my car, and I drive off. I can schedule when I want to go and get them within a one hour window. Seriously, it’s so easy, I feel silly when I actually go inside the grocery now. BIG time saver. 10 things to help you rock September
  7. P3 protein packs These are such a great on the go snack or light meal! They come in a lot of different varieties, so I don’t get bored, and it’s so nice to be able to throw one in my bag in the morning and snack on it on my way to the gym after work, or if I get low energy during the day. 10 things to help you rock September
  8. Aerial Silks I expect I’ll do a full post on this sometime soon, because people always have a bunch of questions about it, and frankly I’m kind of obsessed. Here’s the quick rundown though: there’s probably a fitness studio near(ish) you that teaches it. I do NOT have great upperbody strength, but this is totally helping! YES, it’s super fun and exciting. But also, YES, it hurts. I routinely get weird bruises. However, I’m absolutely LOVING it. It’s a totally different type of challenge, unlike anything I’ve ever tried before, and seriously, it is so fun! It’s all women at my studio, and it is such a warm and supportive group. The biggest issue (other than the physical strength) is the mental game- it takes courage to flip yourself upside down holding a piece of fabric! However, it’s helping me trust myself, and that’s beautiful too. 10 things to help you rock September
  9. storyworth Story worth is a serveice that sends a question to the recipient every week, and after a year, it prints the answers, binds them, and sends them to you in a book! I bought a subscription for my grandmother this spring for Mother’s Day, and yes, it was a very thoughtful gift, but also, it has been unexpectedly great to get her answers in my inbox. I can really hear her voice in the answers and I know that will be precious to me forever. If you’re looking for a meaningful gift for a loved one (it’s definitely aimed at older people) it’s a perfect fit. 10 things to help you rock September: www.superheroliving.blog
  10. Mint Who among us doesn’t need a better way to manage money? I know I do!! I like Mint because it’s by quicken, so if you already have a Quicken account, it will share some info. Also, they make it pretty easy to add all your bills, accounts and assets, and then they remind you how you’re doing. I’m definitely still a beginner, but it’s working for me so far! I think I’ve shared about this one before- but it’s so good, it’s definitely worth re-mentioning!

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The Relaunch

Hey Supers!

It’s been a minute, right? I know- I started this thing, and then I really, really dropped the ball. I have a thousand excuses, but it boils down to this, at the heart of it:

I wasn’t sure I had anything relevant to say. I was in a serious season of self doubt and hardship- I tried to share some of that with you, but then I felt like this space was getting really negative, which isn’t really what I’m about. So instead of figuring it out… I stopped writing. I took this off my plate. I took some time to figure myself and this brand out.

I know that that probably hurt my growth potential and followers. I know a lot of you have been asking for more posts. (And I SO appreciate that!) But you know what? I think it was probably good for me. It was good for Charis, the human behind the words here. IT was good for my Superhero Persona, who needed to spend some time on a digital mountaintop thinking and doing some mental training. I get it, it was risky if I want this little space to take off (which, who knows, I’m still just thrilled when one person reads this, so maybe it doesn’t matter AT ALL) but I just felt like, if I don’t have anything positive to write about it, then what’s the point??

Now I hear you asking “What have you been doing since February?”

Here’s the round up: I designed three shows, one for Chaminade Julienne High School, and two for the University of Dayton. I went on vacation to Logan, Utah to see two of my absolute favorite humans. (Adventure post soon!!) I went back to work as the costume shop manager for Kings Island, which has occupied the vast majority of my time in the last 5 months. I started doing some volunteering at America’s Packard Museum once-ish a week. That’s been kind of a weird off shoot for me, but I actually really look forward to it every weekend. I moved into a house, and I’ve just been so busy getting the house the way I want it. I started taking some classes in Aerial Silks and Lyra (aerial hoop), which is a journey in physical and mental strength unlike anything I’ve worked on before. I went back to the boxing gym- you can find me there 2-3 times a week right now, and I can see the progress so clearly. I walked a long hard road with a friend who needs me. I made new friends. And I spent a LOT of time thinking about the kind of person I am, and want to be. I spent a lot of time examining the smoke screens I’ve been throwing across my personality: things like overly formal, careful writing (and living). Not truly trusting the process, not truly living full out. Not forcing myself to live up to my potential.

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The cast of Kings Island’s Gravity, costumes by Genevieve Beauchamp

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And then I got inspired again to be here, in this space. To chronicle the journey, but also to try and help other people figure things out for themselves.

I won’t pretend to have it all figured out. I don’t. None of us do. I am afraid, and frustrated, too busy, and stressed. But I’m also so grateful for this life that I get to live.

And here’s what I know, deep down in the pit of my soul, where I always find the truth: when I live in that abundance, life is so good. When I trust that the Universe (which is the same as the Force, Spirit, God, and the Creator) wants what’s best for me, and that all I have to do is trust, the Universe comes through. Every time. And it comes through in ways that blow me away. I have gotten such concrete examples of the Universe taking care of me, that I don’t have any other choice than to have faith that it will be there for me.

With that knowledge, I’m free. I’m free to create and explore. I’m free to take off on any adventure I want. I’m free to live in a way that honors myself and that incredible guiding force, the Universe. I’m free to pursue the things I find passion and joy in. I’m free to be my most true self, regardless of who she is, because the Creator of the Universe does not make mistakes. And so as long as I live in a way that honors self and It, I’ll win, every time.

I hope that doesn’t sound too hippy-dippy or woo-woo to you, because I truly believe that it’s the foundation of superhero-dom. This is what gives us our superpowers. Because I AM a superhero, and so are you. All you have to do is plug in to that energy and watch yourself take off.

So! Here’s what you can expect from me, moving forward. I’m not going to promise you that I will post every day- I won’t. I’m not going to promise you that it will be all rainbows from here, and you’ll never see a post that examines the darker parts of life- you will. But I’ll be here regularly- I’m going to shoot for 2-3 times a week. The blog will focus where it has always focused: improving life and superhero skills. But very generally, I’ll stick to the following topics:

  • Work (including some new ventures I can’t WAIT to tell you about!)
  • Relationship with self and others
  • Making and creating
  • Fitness/nutrition
  • Adventures

Or, to put it in superhero jargon (because WHY NOT):

  • Missions
  • How Not To Be A Martyr (they all do it. it’s dumb. Let’s not.)
  • Invention and Genius
  • Training
  • Adventures (because that’s exciting enough on it’s own)

I don’t mind telling you, I’m a little nervous about this. I’m scared I’ll let you down again. I have TONS of fun ideas for posts, and my most earnest intention and prayer is to write like crazy so that we can continue to connect through this space. But one of the things I’ve been learning this year is that I don’t have to know what the next year will look like- I know what today looks like, and the Universe has the rest of it figured out. I’ll know when it’s time. I trust that this little blog is a part of that plan. And so, I’ll continue to trust that this will work out, that I’ll have the ideas, the space, the words, and the time.

So if you’re happy to see this new post, could you let me know? Could you like it, leave me a comment here, or on facebook (@SuperheroLiving) or on Instagram (@charisweible)? Could you share this space with a friend? I could use some support from my team as I jump back in here, and I KNOW you all have my back.

In the meantime, I’ll see you soon.

xoxo,

Charis

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Superhero Action of the day: Give me thumbs up somewhere if you’re happy to see this place grooving again! I’m excited to be back with you- and I hope you’re excited about it too!

 

10 things to help you get through February

Hi Supers! It’s February! You know what that means: time for some new stuff to try!

As usual, no one’s paying me for this. (Although Amazon should be, since all these links go to them.)

 

  1. RX bars
    I got an offer in my email to try these with a discount this past month, and so I jumped on it. They’re at a slightly higher price point ($20 for 12), but they’re very tasty. Super dense and chewy but packed with nutrition and flavor.rxbars_02_bars
  2. Pack it lunch bag
    I bought my PackIt on Amazon about a year and a half ago, and it literally saves me on a daily basis. I’ll be the first to admit that the one I chose (The picnic tote, pictured) was not cheap and it is LARGE. But I’m on the go so much that I routinely don’t eat a single meal at home- and this baby easily hauls 3 meals, water and snacks. Bonus, when I’m really on top of it, I freeze the bag overnight and then it acts as it’s own cold pack all day!
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  3. google drive
    OK, if you aren’t using google drive yet… you’re living the hard way. If you have EVER wanted to share a document with someone else, this is absolutely the way to do it. It’s user friendly, free, and super streamlined, particularly if you’re already using gmail or another google service.
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  4. Paper mate ink joy pens
    I got one of these for Christmas, and I have to say, I really like it. The entire pen is rubber coated, so I can hold it comfortably wherever I want to, and it writes almost like a super fine tip marker. Mine is Pink, and the color is super bright and cheerful!
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  5. pickle snacks
    These things are addicting! If you like Pickles, go ahead and try them. It’s just a bag of pickle slices, but they’re very tasty and there’s not much juice so they’re perfect for snacking. Last week, I had a terrible headache. I went upstairs for a coffee and a bag of these. I don’t know if it was the pickle brine, the caffeine, or both, but headache gone- in about 10 minutes.
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  6. stamp your own jewelry
    Last weekend, some friends of mine and I met up at a place nearby (West Chester, if you’re local) for an evening of metal stamping on jewelry. It was so fun and so easy! My piece is ready for pickup now, and I can’t wait to see the finished product! If there’s a place near you, I recommend it- it’s a fun, crafty night out!
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  7. Jergens Shower Lotion
    This stuff is awesome. I put it on after I shut off the water but before I dry off, and I can definitely feel a difference in my skin if I happen to forget. It has a nice light fragrance, and is perfect to combat winter skin.
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  8. Kroger grab and go meals
    On a whim this week, I picked up a precooked meal at my Kroger grocery store. It was on sale, and I thought, what the heck. Well, I have to admit, I was very impressed. I bought it in the deli section, already portioned and cooked. I heated it up in the microwave exactly like I would have if I had cooked it myself. The rice had so much flavor and the salmon was still flaky and light. Green beans were nice and crisp. It was a perfect portion size, and it was SO easy.
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  9. Tarte liquid lipstick
    I don’t tend to do bold lips very often, especially for day, but this liquid lipstick is a great transitional color and it has some serious staying power! The applicator tickles my lips a lot, which is a weird feeling, but I really like the formula.
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  10. Amazon music
    One morning in, and I’m hooked. If you have Amazon Prime and you’re paying for another streaming service, you’re wasting your money. I can choose which artists I want to listen to, customize playlists, and listen for as long as I want, no commercials. And if I want to, I can download it for offline listening as well. Bye, Pandora!712be6lrhr5l

 

 

 

There you have it- I hope this helps gets you through the month!

Superhero Action of the day: Did I miss something you love? Be sure to comment and let me know so I can check it out!

Mysterious Motivation

It’s the end of January (I know, where did the time go??). I don’t know about you, but I’m tired. And cold. And feeling like maybe it would be nice to climb in my bed and stay there for a week.

Honestly, this whole month could be titled “The case of the mysteriously vanishing motivation”. I went to the gym last night- for the second time this month. My apartment needs cleaned, I need to go to the grocery, the litter boxes need cleaned and my fitbit is dead. Happy Tuesday!

If you’re feeling any of this, don’t despair! I’ve scoured the internet and found some ways to reel Motivation back in so we can get more done- even in these cold dark days of January!

 

  1. Find your “why”: You hear this a lot in fitness and weight loss groups. Coaches will tell you that your why is what you hold to when you just don’t feel like working out. Full disclosure: this one is really hard for me. I don’t feel like I have a huge, overwhelming “why”- certainly not one that sustains me during motivation slumps. A lot of people say their kids, for instance, and that doesn’t work for me. So! To help us all out, here are 20 reasons why:

    -better sleep
    -better stress management
    -clearer skin
    -fit in my clothes better
    -more confidence
    -unsupported handstand!
    -vintage clothing
    -visible muscle definition
    -not winded at the top of the stairs
    -I only get one body
    – big “physical dreams” (mountain climbing, marathon running)
    -better mood
    -not held back by size or strength limitations
    – to be a good example
    -to become more disciplined
    -better focus/more productivity
    -to prove to myself
    -I refuse to undo all of my previous hard work
    -I’m too young to feel this old
    -Because I love this body

Obviously, these are mostly fitness related, but you get the idea!

2. Surround yourself with motivation and look at it all the time! I would encourage you to stay away from things like “You’ll never look good naked fat” as that’s just body shaming and ugly, but things like “eat like you love yourself” will only help you!

3. Be. Patient. No matter your goals, they will take time- that’s what makes them worth working for!

4. Don’t compare yourself to others. Comparison is truly the thief of joy. Don’t let it take yours. This is so hard, with social media everywhere and everywhere you look, someone else’s perfect life is on display. Remember that it’s just a display and that your story isn’t theirs. It doesn’t matter what others have, because you’re a superhero.

5. Believe in yourself. No matter your goal, you have to believe it is possible before you can work on it. Every morning I think to myself, “you can do this, Supergirl”. It’s silly, but it helps!

 

Also, I made this goal tracker sheet for myself, and I think it is helping. If it’ll help you, you can print it out and do what you like with it- just don’t sell it, please!

 

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Superhero Action of the day: Make a list of the things that will keep you motivated! Refocus, and then go out and crush those goals.

Take time to be grateful

I feel like recently, I’ve been a mess of things that are difficult, and that’s bleeding into my writing here.

As you all know, last year was very difficult for me, but I’m not really the kind of persona to wallow in that.

And y’all, things are so good right now. I’ve got the right amount of work (and money!) for maybe the first time in my adult life.

My relationships, while not wrinkle free, are pretty healthy and happy.

It’s cold, but I have the things I need to stay warm.

I’m even doing ok at the eating well thing (although I am still struggling with getting enough exercise!)

And all of this has got me feeling just so grateful. I’m so thankful to be here, doing work that I love and work that I like. I’m so thankful for each one of you reading these posts and encouraging me.

I’m so thankful for my family, the friends that feel like family, and the coworkers and students that bring me so much joy.

I’m so thankful for this body that gets me through 14,16,18 hour days like a A CHAMP.

And the funniest thing happens when we dwell on gratitude instead of on negativity. I find that I am just generally happier. Gratitude and negativity both breed like rabbits, and we get to choose what we’re overrun with.

I hope you choose gratitude. I know not every day is your new best day. I know there will be days where you just don’t feel like a superhero. I know, because I’ve had them. I’ve lost relationships, jobs, family members. I’ve gained weight, lived on fast food, and been less than awesome to the people I work with.

And I’m thankful anyway. It’s not because someone always has it worse. It’s simply because I am thankful. I’m thankful for my life.

And I hope you are too.

If you’re not, here are a couple of things that might help:

  1. Try getting up in the morning a tiny bit earlier and listing out the things that are going well for you- even if it’s just that you’ve managed to get out of bed.
  2. Make a list of the things you have to be grateful for and keep it where you can refer to it constantly (phone background, anyone?)
  3. Start a gratitude journal.
  4. Take a walk. Outside, even in the cold. And when you get warmed up enough that you start to feel alive even though it’s so cold, be grateful for a body that lets you do that.
  5. Find a charitable organization to give to or donate your time. I’m not sure why this works, but it really, really does.

 

I truly believe that being a superhero means having a healthy body, mind and spirit, and gratefulness is a big part of that- I hope you’ll learn to practice this if you aren’t already!

 

Superhero Action of the day: What are you grateful for? I want to know!

So This is Where We Are: Accepting Setbacks

Hello, Superheroes!

I hope your humpday went well! I started my most recent work gig this week, and I must admit, I’m tired! It’s less physical than my job at the amusement park, but man, I am tired at the end of the day!

And sometimes that means I have to just accept the fact that I didn’t get everything done. I didn’t get a blog post up. I didn’t get to the gym. I didn’t.

But sometimes that also means accepting that I can’t. Sometimes that’s easy. I cannot run a marathon (yet.) I cannot go without sleep (though I try). But sometimes, admitting that I can’t do something is really, really hard. Especially when it is something I used to be able to do.

I’ve recently taken on kind of a quiet challenge. Even if I don’t do anything else physical all day, I’m doing 10 pushups a day for 100 days. On January 1, when I got down on the floor and did my pushups, I wanted to cry. I did them from my knees and they were still really, really hard. How can it be that 10 pushups are so hard for me right now? 10 pushups from my toes used to be relatively easy for me. And now I can’t even contemplate that. Now 10 pushups from my knees leave me winded and feeling exerted.

I was embarrassed. Ashamed. Frustrated. Disappointed with myself.

But the more I think about that battle in particular, the more I can just accept that this is where I am right now. I haven’t been able to focus on my body goals recently. And as much as I try, I can’t always juggle all of the things I wish I could. I haven’t been able to carve out time for the gym, or for boxing.

I went to my first yoga class in a long time a couple of weeks ago, and it was so hard.

But that’s where I am right now.

On the other hand, my career stuff is booming- so much so that I haven’t been able to focus on the Etsy store I started thinking about last Summer. But this is where I am.

Because here’s the thing: all stages of life are temporary. Happy with where you are? I hate to tell you, but in all likelihood it is temporary.

Ready for a change? Good. Not only do you get to choose it, but where you are currently will change. And that’s a beautiful thing.

I may not be able to do ten pushups from my toes right now, but I’m working on changing that. Because where I am right now does not define where I will be forever, or even at the end of this 100 days. I don’t have to know what my life long physical fitness goals are to be able to say that I want to be stronger in 100 days. Heck, I don’t even have much of a goal for the end of the 100 days. I just want to try it and see what happens. I will tell you I have a goal of being able to do a handstand by my birthday, and the pushups are going to help with that, but other than that, I don’t know right now.

I have a goal of figuring out how to jam 2 exercise classes a week into my schedule starting February 1. Right now, I’m cold and tired every minute I’m not working, and so, that has to be enough.

Because this is where I am right now.

If you’re struggling with the idea that you aren’t doing enough, or if you’ve experienced a setback recently, I would encourage you to think to yourself, right now, “This is just where I am right now”. Then take a deep breath, and let it out slowly. Feel any better? I hope so.

And remember, my superheroes: where you are right now will never, ever determine your final destination. If you’ve been knocked down a rung or two- the good news is you can climb back up.

 

Superhero Action of the Day: If you’re feeling like some areas of your life have been neglected or set back recently, take a minute and list one positive thing for each of them. And then take a deep breath- and start climbing.

The reason people don’t achieve their goals

Hi loves.

Can I just tell you- sometimes life is so hard. And even when it’s good, it’s still… like, expert level. And sometimes we’re just not ready for expert level, right? Sometimes I could use some time on beginner mode.And the truth is that life- like most things- is rarely all good or all bad. Sure, we all have stormy periods. Times when it seems like nothing will ever go right. But for the most part, life is more complicated then that. Some days are amazing, some are terrible, most are less exciting. Parts of your life are going so well- and other parts are crumbling. And it’s hard to know how to feel about that. I’m really happy with my career right now… but my home life is struggling. I’m feeling really close to some of the people in my life… but I have a few relationships that are struggling- either in their own lives or in our relationship.

Sometimes it’s hard to know which way is up.

And I think that’s why most people don’t meet their goals.

I don’t think it is because they are lazy, or because they just didn’t want it bad enough. I don’t think it’s that they don’t set good goals. It’s the minutiae of everyday life that will get in the way of greatness. I was joking around this fall with my mom about understanding why important and famous people have personal assistants. I want one, and I’m not famous and only of marginal overall importance. But man, the stuff I could get done! How productive could I BE with a personal assistant and a maid? It boggles the mind. It seems as if my days get so cluttered up with the day to day tasks of being an adult I hardly have any room left for superhero-ing. And I don’t just mean blogging. I love the writing, but more importantly, I want to practice what I teach. If I’m sharing recipes with you, I want to have tried them and verified that they are, in fact, amazing. If I’m posting ways to keep your house clean, wouldn’t it be magical if mine was?

If I’m talking about meal planning… shouldn’t I be doing just that?

If I’m setting goals, and encouraging you to do so… what happens if week after week… I don’t hit mine?

Does that make me a hypocrite? Ineffective? A failure?

I don’t think so. People will tell you life is a journey. So if we keep with that metaphor, then really, you can’t fail at it. There will be times where the road is smoother than others. There will be times when the going is easier, there are plenty of rest stops and a great playlist. And there will be times when you miss your turn, lose your way, the car breaks down, you get car sick, or run out of snacks.

It’s all ok.

The biggest fix for this, I think, is to try to live fully in every moment, and not worry too much about the long term result. Being goal oriented is wonderful. Being single minded is… tricky sometimes.

But also- cut your day to day clutter. This is a message to myself as much as anyone else. But if you can make life easier, do that for yourself. Use subscription services. Use a crock pot. (Or Instapot, I have my eye on that one!) Find the balance.

And also, know when to be gentle with yourself. That’s ok too. Some days you’re an Amazon warrior, slaying goals and taking names.

Other days you’re going to need to sit quietly and say “ok. Maybe tomorrow”. And that’s ok too.

So the number one reason people don’t fulfill their goals?

Life. Life gets in the way. But the people that do meet them? They find ways to blend the two.

The difference between dreams, wishes, goals and plans

Hi Supers!

How’s everyone doing on those New Year’s Resolutions? Or do you not want to call them that? That’s fine too. There’s a lot of stigma around that term- and a built in expectation that we’ll all fail out by the end of the month.

What if you didn’t have to?

What if you could develop a system to help you succeed at whatever it is you want to do this year?

Good news: it is totally, completely, 100% possible for you to achieve all of your goals this year.

Bad news: you will have to work for it.

Resolutions are really just goals. You’re resolving to do something. Planning to do it. Making a goal of doing it.

Goals are “the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result”. Seems pretty familiar, right? Here’s what that definition won’t tell you: A goal is more than a plan, dream, or wish.

A plan is “a detailed proposal for doing or achieving something”. Plans tell you the steps. Plans are firm. Plans help you prepare. A fire escape plan. A financial plan.

A dream is to “contemplate the possibility of doing something”. You think about it. You build Pinterest boards about it. You visualize it. A dream vacation, a dream job, dream house, car, or partner.

A wish is when you “feel or express a strong desire or hope for something that is not easily attainable”. We wish upon stars. We wish for big things: world peace, Christmas presents as children.

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Dreams and wishes are similar in that in both cases, we are devoting some significant brain power to something without any thought to forward momentum. There’s no plan of action. There’s no urgency. “Someday I’ll run a marathon” is not a goal; it’s a dream. “Someday I’ll be brave enough to be good at public speaking” is not a goal; it’s a wish. Don’t get me wrong, I want you to wish and to dream. Dream big. Wish for things you can’t hardly picture. Dream about the future, your career, your financial status. Do all of that.

Dreams and wishes, though, are what we build plans and goals out of. They’re the building blocks. The meat and potatoes of a goal. You’ve got to have them, or there’s no substance. But they aren’t the whole meal- and certainly not the fork, which is how you get those meat and potatoes into your life.

Goals are plans with dreams. Think about that one for a minute. If your dream is to be a runner, for example, in order to make it a goal, you have to make a plan. “I want to be a runner” has no momentum. How will you know when you are a runner? How long should that take you? This is where your plan comes in. Sit down, and really bite into that dream. How will you know when you’re a runner? Is it when you can run one mile or 26? Is it when you get your first medal or get under a certain time? In this example, we’ll say that I’ll know I’m a runner (fulfilling my dream) when I run a marathon. So now the GOAL becomes “to run a marathon”. But our goals should also be on a timetable. If all I say is “I want to run a marathon before I die”, that gives me (I hope!) lots of time to procrastinate. If, however, I say that I want to run a marathon this year, well, I’d better get cracking. So now the goal reads “I want to run a marathon during 2018”. Now that’s something!

From there, we can break the goal down into bite size plan chunks: I will run a 5k before Easter, or I’ll run a July 4 half marathon. I like LOTS of bite size chunks (or mini goals). It makes the whole thing seem less overwhelming and scary.

So, to recap: first step: dream with all of your heart and creativity. Wish for things. Get BIG. Think of things that scare you and excite you all at once. Then think about how you can achieve them and make them a reality. Set a time limit and a specific way of achieving that dream. And then find the action steps to get you there.

I’m not a math person, but maybe the formula looks like this:

Goals= plans(dreams+wishes)

So with that in mind, let me tell you a few of my goals for the new year:

  • I want an unsupported handstand before my next birthday (November)

to that end, I have decided to commit myself to 100 days of pushups and planks, as well as reinvigorating my yoga practice and periodic tries at my handstands (supported, for now!)

  • I want to be debt free (except maybe a mortgage payment?) in ten years.

I’m saving a little bit every week so that I can start paying extra on my debt. I’m also cutting unnecessary expenses where possible.

 

I hope this helps you realize that you can achieve and earn all of your dreams. It is totally possible. But you will have to work for it! Thinking about the things you want is great. Going and getting them?

That’s Superhero Living.

Superhero Action of the day: What are your goals? I want to hear all about them.

 

 

10 Products I’m loving for September

Sorry I’m a few days late with this!

But here we are with a list of things I’m loving as we go back to school and get into Fall weather!

As usual, I’m not getting paid for this, so you can be sure I actually love all of these things!

 

  1. All hail the almighty PSL. I am not as obsessed with Pumpkin as some people I know, but I do love pumpkin flavored coffee. Also, if you’re drinking it iced, try it with almond milk for a slightly different flavor! I don’t like the almond milk hot but cold it is excellent!
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    Pumpkin Spice Latte, Starbucks, $3-5
  2. The Backstagers

    I’m not a huge comic book person, but this is an adorable story about high school theatre- how could I not love it?? You can get digital versions from Amazon, or order it online from mycomicbookshop.com, but I recommend going down to a local shop and asking for it. If you’ve never been, it’s a great way to have an adventure AND support local business. 410464-_sx1280_ql80_ttd_

    The Backstagers, BOOM Publishing on Amazon, $2-6 an episode

  3. Neutrogena oil free pink grapefruit body wash. This stuff takes care of any body breakouts I get in a snap. Perfect for midwest weather that changes it’s mind all the time!
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    Neutrogena body wash, Amazon, $5.96

  4. Asics no show invasion socks If you know me, you know I’m not a huge fan of socks. However, these are my absolute favorite workout socks. I stumbled across them several years ago and they’re the best. Soft and cushy, my feet don’t feel too sweaty or hot and they come in both fun colors and black and white.

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    Asics No  Show Invasion Socks, Asics.com, $18 for six

  5. Oatmeal. Oatmeal is my go to breakfast right now. I’ll write up some of my favorite recipes sometime soon, but I love that you can make it hundreds of ways, it’s easy, pretty healthy and warm and comforting as we head into colder mornings.
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    Quaker Old Fashioned Oats, Amazon, $2.98

  6. Overdrive. Overdrive is an app that hooks up with your local libraries to provide you access to thousands of audiobooks, e-books and other stuff. It’s super easy to use and best of all, totally free!

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    Overdrive, App, Free

  7. Mint. I’ve been using Mint for several years, but I really feel like I’m starting to get the hang of it. Mint helps me manage my money, and with all of my freelance work, that’s more important than ever.
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    Mint, App, Free

    8. Moo.com. If you have to get stuff printed, I can’t recommend Moo.com enough. I recently got some stickers made for the etsy store, and everything about the experience was just so great. They’re made for small businesses, so I didn’t have to order 10,000, and the upload and design tools were very easy to use and accessible.

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    moo.com, printing company, prices vary

    9. ELF Instant Lift Brow Pencil. This crayon style pencil has a spoolie brush on the other end, making it perfect to fill in and come those brows into submission. Anyone who has taken my makeup classes knows I hate eyebrows, so making it these easy to deal with them is a plus! It isn’t as precise as some of the more expensive tools, but for this price, it’s still a steal. I get it in taupe.

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    ELF Instant Brow Pencil, Ulta Beauty, $2

    10. Vigo Black Beans and Rice. This was a staple in my house growing up, and I’ve gone back to them recently as I’ve been slow this summer. This is a cheap and filling dinner, without giving up on nutrition. And also, it’s bursting with flavor.

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    Vigo Black beans and Rice, Amazon, $15.50 for four

 

And that’s what I’ve got for this month! As always, I’d love to hear your suggestions for things to make life easier and more fun!

Set some Goals

Hi Supers!

Tomorrow is the first Monday of September! Can you believe it? I hope you enjoy it, whatever you are doing on Labor Day. As for me, I’ll be at my first official shift in my new job as the Costume Shop Manager at King’s Island, a local amusement park. Wish me luck!

But tonight, although it’s getting late and I’m still at school working, I wanted to take a few minutes and talk about setting goals.

If you don’t set regular goals, you probably should. I hope that’s not the first time you’ve heard that!

There are a ton of different ways to do it, but in the end it doesn’t matter a whole lot- as long as it works for YOU! But here are a couple of guidelines if you’re a little (or a lot) overwhelmed.

I like to start with categories. For example, I routinely set career, physical, mental, and emotional goals. Maybe you add school or relationship goals. Or financial goals. Whatever you need!

Then I like to put a BIG goal in all of the categories. Right now my BIG goals are:

Career/financial: Be able to comfortably full time freelance, pay off all debt before I turn 32 (includes student loans)

Physical: Be able to do an unsupported handstand and run 30 minutes non stop before the end of the year

Mental: Be fluent in another language with in three years(this one was hard!)

Emotional/ relational: maintain equilibrium during the current storm

 

These are all things I’m SUPER excited about. I WANT them- hopefully badly enough to really dedicate some time working towards them! Notice that most of them have a time limit or deadline attached. This is key! Otherwise it isn’t a goal, it’s a wish.

Once I have my BIG goals, I start subdividing. I do monthly and weekly goals, and then I set to do list items for the day to day.

So, for example, my monthly goals for September are:

Career/financial: launch my etsy store, write 15 blog posts

Physical: hit my step goal 5 out of 7 days per week, do at least ten minutes of yoga every day

Mental: read three books

Emotional/ relational: plan my weeks and stick to it

 

My weekly goals look like this:

 

Physical: Hit my step goal 5 out of 7 days, do at least ten minutes of yoga every day

Career and financial: close and ship the giveaway

Mental: read the 10 chapters of my book for the book club

Emotional/Relational: plan my week and stick to it

 

 

And there you have it! That’s how I set goals. When I do it consistently, I notice I’m WAY more productive, happier and much more focused!

 

Superhero action of the day: What are your goals? Are you achieving them?