Mysterious Motivation

It’s the end of January (I know, where did the time go??). I don’t know about you, but I’m tired. And cold. And feeling like maybe it would be nice to climb in my bed and stay there for a week.

Honestly, this whole month could be titled “The case of the mysteriously vanishing motivation”. I went to the gym last night- for the second time this month. My apartment needs cleaned, I need to go to the grocery, the litter boxes need cleaned and my fitbit is dead. Happy Tuesday!

If you’re feeling any of this, don’t despair! I’ve scoured the internet and found some ways to reel Motivation back in so we can get more done- even in these cold dark days of January!


  1. Find your “why”: You hear this a lot in fitness and weight loss groups. Coaches will tell you that your why is what you hold to when you just don’t feel like working out. Full disclosure: this one is really hard for me. I don’t feel like I have a huge, overwhelming “why”- certainly not one that sustains me during motivation slumps. A lot of people say their kids, for instance, and that doesn’t work for me. So! To help us all out, here are 20 reasons why:

    -better sleep
    -better stress management
    -clearer skin
    -fit in my clothes better
    -more confidence
    -unsupported handstand!
    -vintage clothing
    -visible muscle definition
    -not winded at the top of the stairs
    -I only get one body
    – big “physical dreams” (mountain climbing, marathon running)
    -better mood
    -not held back by size or strength limitations
    – to be a good example
    -to become more disciplined
    -better focus/more productivity
    -to prove to myself
    -I refuse to undo all of my previous hard work
    -I’m too young to feel this old
    -Because I love this body

Obviously, these are mostly fitness related, but you get the idea!

2. Surround yourself with motivation and look at it all the time! I would encourage you to stay away from things like “You’ll never look good naked fat” as that’s just body shaming and ugly, but things like “eat like you love yourself” will only help you!

3. Be. Patient. No matter your goals, they will take time- that’s what makes them worth working for!

4. Don’t compare yourself to others. Comparison is truly the thief of joy. Don’t let it take yours. This is so hard, with social media everywhere and everywhere you look, someone else’s perfect life is on display. Remember that it’s just a display and that your story isn’t theirs. It doesn’t matter what others have, because you’re a superhero.

5. Believe in yourself. No matter your goal, you have to believe it is possible before you can work on it. Every morning I think to myself, “you can do this, Supergirl”. It’s silly, but it helps!


Also, I made this goal tracker sheet for myself, and I think it is helping. If it’ll help you, you can print it out and do what you like with it- just don’t sell it, please!




Superhero Action of the day: Make a list of the things that will keep you motivated! Refocus, and then go out and crush those goals.

Take time to be grateful

I feel like recently, I’ve been a mess of things that are difficult, and that’s bleeding into my writing here.

As you all know, last year was very difficult for me, but I’m not really the kind of persona to wallow in that.

And y’all, things are so good right now. I’ve got the right amount of work (and money!) for maybe the first time in my adult life.

My relationships, while not wrinkle free, are pretty healthy and happy.

It’s cold, but I have the things I need to stay warm.

I’m even doing ok at the eating well thing (although I am still struggling with getting enough exercise!)

And all of this has got me feeling just so grateful. I’m so thankful to be here, doing work that I love and work that I like. I’m so thankful for each one of you reading these posts and encouraging me.

I’m so thankful for my family, the friends that feel like family, and the coworkers and students that bring me so much joy.

I’m so thankful for this body that gets me through 14,16,18 hour days like a A CHAMP.

And the funniest thing happens when we dwell on gratitude instead of on negativity. I find that I am just generally happier. Gratitude and negativity both breed like rabbits, and we get to choose what we’re overrun with.

I hope you choose gratitude. I know not every day is your new best day. I know there will be days where you just don’t feel like a superhero. I know, because I’ve had them. I’ve lost relationships, jobs, family members. I’ve gained weight, lived on fast food, and been less than awesome to the people I work with.

And I’m thankful anyway. It’s not because someone always has it worse. It’s simply because I am thankful. I’m thankful for my life.

And I hope you are too.

If you’re not, here are a couple of things that might help:

  1. Try getting up in the morning a tiny bit earlier and listing out the things that are going well for you- even if it’s just that you’ve managed to get out of bed.
  2. Make a list of the things you have to be grateful for and keep it where you can refer to it constantly (phone background, anyone?)
  3. Start a gratitude journal.
  4. Take a walk. Outside, even in the cold. And when you get warmed up enough that you start to feel alive even though it’s so cold, be grateful for a body that lets you do that.
  5. Find a charitable organization to give to or donate your time. I’m not sure why this works, but it really, really does.


I truly believe that being a superhero means having a healthy body, mind and spirit, and gratefulness is a big part of that- I hope you’ll learn to practice this if you aren’t already!


Superhero Action of the day: What are you grateful for? I want to know!

So This is Where We Are: Accepting Setbacks

Hello, Superheroes!

I hope your humpday went well! I started my most recent work gig this week, and I must admit, I’m tired! It’s less physical than my job at the amusement park, but man, I am tired at the end of the day!

And sometimes that means I have to just accept the fact that I didn’t get everything done. I didn’t get a blog post up. I didn’t get to the gym. I didn’t.

But sometimes that also means accepting that I can’t. Sometimes that’s easy. I cannot run a marathon (yet.) I cannot go without sleep (though I try). But sometimes, admitting that I can’t do something is really, really hard. Especially when it is something I used to be able to do.

I’ve recently taken on kind of a quiet challenge. Even if I don’t do anything else physical all day, I’m doing 10 pushups a day for 100 days. On January 1, when I got down on the floor and did my pushups, I wanted to cry. I did them from my knees and they were still really, really hard. How can it be that 10 pushups are so hard for me right now? 10 pushups from my toes used to be relatively easy for me. And now I can’t even contemplate that. Now 10 pushups from my knees leave me winded and feeling exerted.

I was embarrassed. Ashamed. Frustrated. Disappointed with myself.

But the more I think about that battle in particular, the more I can just accept that this is where I am right now. I haven’t been able to focus on my body goals recently. And as much as I try, I can’t always juggle all of the things I wish I could. I haven’t been able to carve out time for the gym, or for boxing.

I went to my first yoga class in a long time a couple of weeks ago, and it was so hard.

But that’s where I am right now.

On the other hand, my career stuff is booming- so much so that I haven’t been able to focus on the Etsy store I started thinking about last Summer. But this is where I am.

Because here’s the thing: all stages of life are temporary. Happy with where you are? I hate to tell you, but in all likelihood it is temporary.

Ready for a change? Good. Not only do you get to choose it, but where you are currently will change. And that’s a beautiful thing.

I may not be able to do ten pushups from my toes right now, but I’m working on changing that. Because where I am right now does not define where I will be forever, or even at the end of this 100 days. I don’t have to know what my life long physical fitness goals are to be able to say that I want to be stronger in 100 days. Heck, I don’t even have much of a goal for the end of the 100 days. I just want to try it and see what happens. I will tell you I have a goal of being able to do a handstand by my birthday, and the pushups are going to help with that, but other than that, I don’t know right now.

I have a goal of figuring out how to jam 2 exercise classes a week into my schedule starting February 1. Right now, I’m cold and tired every minute I’m not working, and so, that has to be enough.

Because this is where I am right now.

If you’re struggling with the idea that you aren’t doing enough, or if you’ve experienced a setback recently, I would encourage you to think to yourself, right now, “This is just where I am right now”. Then take a deep breath, and let it out slowly. Feel any better? I hope so.

And remember, my superheroes: where you are right now will never, ever determine your final destination. If you’ve been knocked down a rung or two- the good news is you can climb back up.


Superhero Action of the Day: If you’re feeling like some areas of your life have been neglected or set back recently, take a minute and list one positive thing for each of them. And then take a deep breath- and start climbing.

diversity, change, & love

I was going to talk about the beauty of diversity tonight- being that it’s MLK day today. I was going to wax profound about how if we could all just treat each other as, I don’t know, human beings, with the compassion and care that that merits, the world would be a better place.

I was going to tell you all about the joy I find in going to a multi racial church, working in multi racial schools, and having friends of other races.

Don’t get me wrong, I think all of that is valid. And I think those are beautiful things to aspire to. And it IS a true joy going to a multi racial church, teaching in my urban schools and having friends who are different than me.

But the problem America is facing is just so large. Racism is insidious. It sneaks and slips into corners when you aren’t paying attention. It is so ingrained in some of us, I have heard people say things like “I’m not racist, (uh huh, sure, keep talking) but black women are ugly”.

The people who say these kinds of things really do believe they aren’t racist. Let that sink in. Most of the time, people who say these things believe that they aren’t racist.

I would know, I’ve been one of them.

Don’t get me wrong, #blackgirlmagic is real and people of color are just as varied as people with less melanin in their skins. And they are beautiful. Light skinned, dark skinned, all women are lovely creatures- no matter our race.

But I have said things I’m not proud of, in retrospect.

This is where, I think, the dialogue around racism that’s happening right now can be a two edged sword. On the one hand, talking about these things is the only way we’ll ever make a change. Exorcise the demon. All of these social injustices hide under people’s refusal to see them, and in order to chase them out, we have to talk about them.  On the other hand, though, who’s voice do we listen to? If what I really desire to do is stand with people of color and say ‘enough is enough’ to racism, how do I police myself against micro-aggressions? Whom should I ask about what’s acceptable and what’s not? Who can I trust to pull me aside and say “hey girl, just so you know, that comment wasn’t cool” And when that happens, can I be sure that I will respond with a “thanks for letting me know, I’m so sorry I upset you- I’ll do better in the future!”?

Is it really the loudest voice that has all the answers? You know the one- the facebook friend who posts nothing but politics and the negative experiences they are having. How can I be sure that she has all the answers?

I guess my point is that no matter the fight- racism, sexism, political change, we need to choose our mentors carefully. And when we make those choices, I hope we are brave enough to engage in conversations with those people about what they think the path to change is.

And of course, we need to watch our words and our minds. Can we learn to be proud of who we are without denigrating someone else? Can we agree to learn from each other instead of ripping each other to shreds?

If what we desire is equality, respect, compassion, and dignity from each other, can we start by offering it? Even to those against whom we are morally opposed? Can we agree to swallow hard and say “you are different than me, and I like that about you” instead of “you are different than me and that makes you wrong”?

One of the things that breaks my heart regularly is how ugly people are capable of being to one another. Hate gets spewed back and forth, on both sides of every issue until no one can stand up at the end with a clean conscience. It’s gotten so bad for me personally that I have had to make the lamentable decision to almost completely not engage- especially online. Not because I don’t agree, but because I have to protect my heart from that color of ugly. That’s been a hard choice, but I can’t join in with the name calling and the mud slinging.

So instead, I choose to listen more than I speak and spread love. Love to my students, on whom I have the most direct impact. Love to the members of my church. Love to the cashiers at stores, and love to the people in the gym. I can’t figure out another healthy way to do it.

This isn’t a post with a single actionable item in it. I don’t have any of the answers. This is hard stuff to talk about, think about and act on. I hope that it makes you think, though.

The way you treat people matters. All people. Every interaction. Online, over the phone or in person, it matters. And if we ever want things to change, we’ll have to start by changing ourselves.



The reason people don’t achieve their goals

Hi loves.

Can I just tell you- sometimes life is so hard. And even when it’s good, it’s still… like, expert level. And sometimes we’re just not ready for expert level, right? Sometimes I could use some time on beginner mode.And the truth is that life- like most things- is rarely all good or all bad. Sure, we all have stormy periods. Times when it seems like nothing will ever go right. But for the most part, life is more complicated then that. Some days are amazing, some are terrible, most are less exciting. Parts of your life are going so well- and other parts are crumbling. And it’s hard to know how to feel about that. I’m really happy with my career right now… but my home life is struggling. I’m feeling really close to some of the people in my life… but I have a few relationships that are struggling- either in their own lives or in our relationship.

Sometimes it’s hard to know which way is up.

And I think that’s why most people don’t meet their goals.

I don’t think it is because they are lazy, or because they just didn’t want it bad enough. I don’t think it’s that they don’t set good goals. It’s the minutiae of everyday life that will get in the way of greatness. I was joking around this fall with my mom about understanding why important and famous people have personal assistants. I want one, and I’m not famous and only of marginal overall importance. But man, the stuff I could get done! How productive could I BE with a personal assistant and a maid? It boggles the mind. It seems as if my days get so cluttered up with the day to day tasks of being an adult I hardly have any room left for superhero-ing. And I don’t just mean blogging. I love the writing, but more importantly, I want to practice what I teach. If I’m sharing recipes with you, I want to have tried them and verified that they are, in fact, amazing. If I’m posting ways to keep your house clean, wouldn’t it be magical if mine was?

If I’m talking about meal planning… shouldn’t I be doing just that?

If I’m setting goals, and encouraging you to do so… what happens if week after week… I don’t hit mine?

Does that make me a hypocrite? Ineffective? A failure?

I don’t think so. People will tell you life is a journey. So if we keep with that metaphor, then really, you can’t fail at it. There will be times where the road is smoother than others. There will be times when the going is easier, there are plenty of rest stops and a great playlist. And there will be times when you miss your turn, lose your way, the car breaks down, you get car sick, or run out of snacks.

It’s all ok.

The biggest fix for this, I think, is to try to live fully in every moment, and not worry too much about the long term result. Being goal oriented is wonderful. Being single minded is… tricky sometimes.

But also- cut your day to day clutter. This is a message to myself as much as anyone else. But if you can make life easier, do that for yourself. Use subscription services. Use a crock pot. (Or Instapot, I have my eye on that one!) Find the balance.

And also, know when to be gentle with yourself. That’s ok too. Some days you’re an Amazon warrior, slaying goals and taking names.

Other days you’re going to need to sit quietly and say “ok. Maybe tomorrow”. And that’s ok too.

So the number one reason people don’t fulfill their goals?

Life. Life gets in the way. But the people that do meet them? They find ways to blend the two.

The difference between dreams, wishes, goals and plans

Hi Supers!

How’s everyone doing on those New Year’s Resolutions? Or do you not want to call them that? That’s fine too. There’s a lot of stigma around that term- and a built in expectation that we’ll all fail out by the end of the month.

What if you didn’t have to?

What if you could develop a system to help you succeed at whatever it is you want to do this year?

Good news: it is totally, completely, 100% possible for you to achieve all of your goals this year.

Bad news: you will have to work for it.

Resolutions are really just goals. You’re resolving to do something. Planning to do it. Making a goal of doing it.

Goals are “the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result”. Seems pretty familiar, right? Here’s what that definition won’t tell you: A goal is more than a plan, dream, or wish.

A plan is “a detailed proposal for doing or achieving something”. Plans tell you the steps. Plans are firm. Plans help you prepare. A fire escape plan. A financial plan.

A dream is to “contemplate the possibility of doing something”. You think about it. You build Pinterest boards about it. You visualize it. A dream vacation, a dream job, dream house, car, or partner.

A wish is when you “feel or express a strong desire or hope for something that is not easily attainable”. We wish upon stars. We wish for big things: world peace, Christmas presents as children.


Dreams and wishes are similar in that in both cases, we are devoting some significant brain power to something without any thought to forward momentum. There’s no plan of action. There’s no urgency. “Someday I’ll run a marathon” is not a goal; it’s a dream. “Someday I’ll be brave enough to be good at public speaking” is not a goal; it’s a wish. Don’t get me wrong, I want you to wish and to dream. Dream big. Wish for things you can’t hardly picture. Dream about the future, your career, your financial status. Do all of that.

Dreams and wishes, though, are what we build plans and goals out of. They’re the building blocks. The meat and potatoes of a goal. You’ve got to have them, or there’s no substance. But they aren’t the whole meal- and certainly not the fork, which is how you get those meat and potatoes into your life.

Goals are plans with dreams. Think about that one for a minute. If your dream is to be a runner, for example, in order to make it a goal, you have to make a plan. “I want to be a runner” has no momentum. How will you know when you are a runner? How long should that take you? This is where your plan comes in. Sit down, and really bite into that dream. How will you know when you’re a runner? Is it when you can run one mile or 26? Is it when you get your first medal or get under a certain time? In this example, we’ll say that I’ll know I’m a runner (fulfilling my dream) when I run a marathon. So now the GOAL becomes “to run a marathon”. But our goals should also be on a timetable. If all I say is “I want to run a marathon before I die”, that gives me (I hope!) lots of time to procrastinate. If, however, I say that I want to run a marathon this year, well, I’d better get cracking. So now the goal reads “I want to run a marathon during 2018”. Now that’s something!

From there, we can break the goal down into bite size plan chunks: I will run a 5k before Easter, or I’ll run a July 4 half marathon. I like LOTS of bite size chunks (or mini goals). It makes the whole thing seem less overwhelming and scary.

So, to recap: first step: dream with all of your heart and creativity. Wish for things. Get BIG. Think of things that scare you and excite you all at once. Then think about how you can achieve them and make them a reality. Set a time limit and a specific way of achieving that dream. And then find the action steps to get you there.

I’m not a math person, but maybe the formula looks like this:

Goals= plans(dreams+wishes)

So with that in mind, let me tell you a few of my goals for the new year:

  • I want an unsupported handstand before my next birthday (November)

to that end, I have decided to commit myself to 100 days of pushups and planks, as well as reinvigorating my yoga practice and periodic tries at my handstands (supported, for now!)

  • I want to be debt free (except maybe a mortgage payment?) in ten years.

I’m saving a little bit every week so that I can start paying extra on my debt. I’m also cutting unnecessary expenses where possible.


I hope this helps you realize that you can achieve and earn all of your dreams. It is totally possible. But you will have to work for it! Thinking about the things you want is great. Going and getting them?

That’s Superhero Living.

Superhero Action of the day: What are your goals? I want to hear all about them.



New Beginnings

I know it is stereotypical to talk about this at the start of the new year, but I can’t help it. I’m so excited for the adventures this year will bring- and I’m excited to be done with last year.

But that is making me think of new beginnings of all kinds. They’re their own special kind of sweetness, aren’t they? Whether it’s going to the gym for the first time in three months (me), reconnecting with an old friend (also me), or finding new joy in something exciting and fresh (you guessed it), beginning something new is so exciting.

It’s scary though, too. I went to the gym tonight, and everything hurt. The workout I breezed through in August and September kicked my butt tonight. And that’s sad, and frustrating, and disappointing. But this body of mine is strong, and sexy, and beautiful, and multi dimensional. And it’s the only one I get, for my whole life. So the best thing I can do for it is to love it and appreciate it for what it CAN get me through, not be angry with it for losing progress. It just got me through two full months of some of the hardest work I’ve ever done- 100+ hour weeks, 20,000+ step days, bad food, not enough sleep, not enough love. But we’re through it now, and this body carried me and let me do it.

So yes, we started again at the gym. Because my body is worth spending that time on. And I’m excited about watching and feeling my body get stronger again. (Not to mention, I’ll admit, my pants fitting a little bit better!)


In a similar vein, I’ve reconnected with several old friends within the last year or so. It’s been so good for my soul, to have them back in my life. To remember the way we interact and feel safe and supported by them again. But in each instance, occasionally I discover something different about this person I thought I knew so well. Something about them that has changed over the years where we weren’t connected. And finding those surprises is precious- each one reminds me of the changes I’ve made in my own life and helps remind me that we all grow and change and develop. Some of these changes are good ones- growth, expansion, better mental and physical health. Some of them haven’t been changes for the better- and in one case, I felt like I had to cut ties with someone I was once very close to. And although that is painful, it’s healthy, too. And it gives me room to begin again, in a new cycle of my life.

As always, there’s a new beginning coming in my career. I don’t want to spill the beans on it for another week or so, but I am feeling very excited about the new beginnings there, and looking forward to a year full, once again, of work that I love.

And then there’s this space. This space where we can be together. This space that can become anything I want it to be. This space that needs me to be here more often. This space that can begin again. And I’m excited about that too.

I hope, darlings, that as you look ahead into this new year, you can see the excitement in those beginnings before you see the fears. That you jump in to your new beginnings with faith and enthusiasm. That your new beginnings reward you. And that you’ll continue to share them with me.

Superhero Action of the Day: think about something new that is starting for you. What are the opportunities it presents to broaden your life?

10 things to do (that aren’t staring at your phone)

Hi supers!

Some business first: if you haven’t entered the giveaway, you should go do that. Right now. I’ll wait!


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So, as we all know, I was vastly underemployed this summer, and I didn’t handle it very well. I seem to be doing much better now!

Anyway, this Summer, I found myself spending hours sitting around on my couch, playing around on my phone. Facebook, Two Dots (my game of choice), Instagram… you name it, I was wasting time on it this summer.

So today, I am making a list of things to do instead of staring at your phone screen! Let’s get right to it:

  1. Activity Books. Whether it’s coloring books for adults, word searches, crosswords or sudoku puzzles, there are tons of ways to keep your mind and hands busy! Personally, I’m a fan of those super cheap crossword magazines, and of course, an erasable pen!
  2. embroidery, painting or another artistic hobby.  A lot of people like to knit or crochet. I like to do some hand embroidery- it’s portable, I can watch tv or do other things while I’m doing it, and at the end of it, I have something to display or give away!
  3. Deep clean or sort something. Maybe it’s the junk drawer in your kitchen. Maybe it’s your bedroom closet. Wherever it is in your home, I bet there are places that you know could use some organizing. Dig in and get them cleaned out! You’ll feel better once it’s done!
  4. Dust. I don’t know about you, but dusting is the chore that usually gets skipped at my house. But if you find you are bored, dusting is a great way to get you moving and get some (in my case) much needed housework done! Bonus points if you turn on some music and have a dance party!
  5. Write a letter. Handwrite a letter or a card to a friend. My bff and I have an ongoing (although not constant) stream of written communication, and getting something in the mail from her ALWAYS makes my day. Better yet, write that letter to your grandparents.
  6. Do a jigsaw puzzle or learn a form of solitaire. I don’t have a lot of room for puzzles (although I really enjoy them), but I spent the majority of my down time one weekend this summer playing solitaire and was amazed at how well it kept me busy!
  7. Learn more about something you are passionate about. The library and the internet are such amazing wealths of information! Make good use of them and learn about something you love or maybe just something you’re curious about! Become an expert- just for fun!
  8. Decorate your dream house. Sometimes I get on amazon and etsy and just make lists of all the pretty things I would buy if I had the money!
  9. Read a book. Again, you can learn anything you want to this way. MY personal favorites are sci-fi/fantasy and mysteries, but I try to read one book that’s good for me while I’m getting those stories in!
  10. Get up and get out of your house and go exploring. Find a new park, eat at a new restaurant, drive down a new road. Change your surroundings just enough to make you look around and appreciate them.


And there you have it! Ten things to do when you’re bored. Get off your couch and be amazing.


Superhero action of the day: Tell me your boredom busters! Comment here or over on the Superhero Living Facebook Page.


The Worst Things About Freelance Work

Hi Superheroes!

I’m a freelancer. I work in Costume Design, primarily for live theatre. It is work that I absolutely love. I am passionate about it. I believe firmly that it is important, invaluable work.

Here’s the thing. Sometimes it sucks.

I mean that.

It is scary. It is hard. It means sleepless, worried nights. It means giving up on some things. It means remaining confident in the face of unimaginable fear.

And that’s the worst thing about freelance work.

The fear.

When you have enough work, freelancing is the dream, right? I mean. I get to do work that I love, on my own schedule, and get paid for it. There are many days when I wake up and I cannot wait to get to work. When I’m doing this work, I simply can’t connect to my friends who say “ugh, I don’t want to work today”. I’ve had jobs like that. But my costume design work never, ever feels like that.

Don’t get me wrong, there are days when I’m frustrated or disappointed by what has happened. But I alway see the good side of it. Always. I always want to keep up with it. I can talk about it for hours.

I’ll take my worst days of freelance work over most of my days doing other work. It makes me feel alive.

But when work gets slow, it’s the scariest thing in the world. When the contracts run out unexpectedly, and you realize all of a sudden with a start that there isn’t a paycheck coming. And not ever again unless you get off your couch and go for it.

And sometimes, you do just that, and you don’t get the gig. And there still isn’t a paycheck coming.

Meanwhile, how are you paying your bills? How are you buying dog food? How do you generate work and content that are interesting and provide value when you’re so scared of losing your shirt it’s all you can think about it?

That, my supers, is the worst part of freelancing. It’s hard. But not in the way you think. Not the work itself- the old saying “do something you love and you’ll never work a day in your life”? It holds true. The work is hard, but when you love it, you don’t care. You do it anyway.

But when the work dries up… That’s hard. Learning to budget for those times is hard. Giving up vacations is hard. Admitting that you can’t go out with a friend because you’re broke is hard. If you’re an extrovert (like I am), staying mentally healthy when you can’t afford to go out and have adventures is hard.

And I don’t know how to get through it.

That is why I’ve gone so silent on you. It’s so, so, so hard to write about being a superhero when you feel like a guttersnipe. I don’t feel Super. I’m scared. I’m anxious. I’m just barely managing to keep my head above water, and honestly, some days I don’t. There are too many days when I am content to sit on my couch playing games on my phone and listening to audiobooks for hours on end.

And what kind of hypocrite would I be, if I can’t even be my own Superhero? How is that Superhero Living? How can I help you if I can’t help myself?

I don’t have the answers. A lot of times, I do feel like I can shed some light on these kinds of subjects, but I really and truly can’t today.

But here’s the thing I’m holding on to. My raft in a sea of fear and confusion. It’s pretty simple: This too shall pass. It will. If I’m being honest, the end is already in sight. It feels like it will last forever, but it won’t.

And today, that’s how I’m living like a superhero. How are you?


Stand in your truth

Hi my superheroes!

I feel like I might actually be ready to write this post- and I feel like this might be part of the reason I’ve had trouble writing for a while.

Tonight I want to talk about living in your truth.

There’s a lot to unpack there, isn’t there? Let’s see.

First of all, to be able to live in our own truth means that we have to know ourselves well enough to know what that is. Yikes, that seems convoluted. What I mean by that is, when a situation comes up, you have to know where you stand on it. And you have to stand there for yourself.

A lot of times, when you face a difficult situation, there will be people in your life, people that you care about and who’s opinions you value. And those people will be on opposite sides of your situation. They’ll tell you to turn right, yelling to be louder than the people you value telling you to go left.

You have to make the choice for yourself.

Sometimes, you’ll choose poorly. That’s the risk. Sometimes, you’ll think you were doing everything right and all of a sudden, you’re upside down in a ditch with no idea how you got there. You still have to choose.

So once we know where we stand, then you have to find a way to act on it. You have to. No options. If you’re going to stand up for something, you have to put your money where your mouth is.

And that can be so, so, so scary. I know. But here’s what else I know. You’ll feel better for it.

Say, for example, you see a friend making a risky change. Maybe your best friend is catching feelings for someone new, and after thinking about it, you realize the guy is bad news. Do you tell your friend?

Yes. You speak the truth with great love, but you tell her. And when you do, you’ll feel it. Your chest will loosen up. Your breath will ease. Speaking the truth, even when you’re scared, is a huge, huge part of becoming a superhero.

But it’s more than just having the courage to speak up. Every now and then, we’ll be faced with a situation that will test us. Every now and then, you’ll have to stop in and check in: Does this still feel right? Sometimes you’ll find yourself in a situation that no one else will understand, but for whatever reason, it feels right to you. Follow that instinct. Stay on your own path, no matter how twisty it seems. Find your place, and stand tall.


Superhero action of the day: Stop and take a minute today to really determine where you stand on something you’ve been avoiding.